What should I do if my child is too dependent on his mother?

What should I do if my child is too dependent on his mother? ——Analysis of the causes of dependence and scientific coping strategies

In recent years, the issue of "over-dependence" in parent-child relationships has become a hot topic, especially on social platforms. The following is the hot data statistics on this topic across the Internet in the past 10 days:

1. Typical manifestations of children’s dependence on their mothers

According to the survey data from parenting expert @Professor Wang:

2. In-depth analysis of dependence causes

1.parenting style factors:
• Arranged education accounts for 67%
• In families where father participation is less than 30%, dependence increases 2.4 times

2.Laws of psychological development:
• The critical period for establishing a sense of security (0-3 years old) is not properly guided
• The budding period of autonomous consciousness (2-4 years old) is excessively suppressed

3.environmental factors:
• In two-child families, the recurrence rate of dependent behavior among the eldest son/daughter is 58%
• Children born during the epidemic have more significant symptoms of separation anxiety

3. Phased solutions

4. Three-step improvement method recommended by experts

1.Establish a safe base: 30 minutes of high-quality companionship every day to help children establish a solid sense of security

2.Bringing in a substitute carer: It is recommended that father’s participation be gradually increased to above 40%, which can reduce the dependence index by 37%.

3.Capacity Development Plan: Develop age-appropriate self-directed task lists based on child development scales

5. Warning on common misunderstandings for parents

• Sudden forced separation leads to rebound rate as high as 82%
• The long-term effect of material rewards is negative
• Comparing yourself to other children can exacerbate anxiety symptoms

The latest research shows that families that adopt scientific intervention methods can improve their children's independent performance by 2-3 developmental stages within 3 months. Remember, dependence is not a defect but a sign of growth. Correct guidance will help children establish healthy psychological boundaries.